Loving Yourself Flaws and All!!!

Loving yourself flaws and all isn’t always easy . Being Fat isn’t easy period. Everyone has an opinion about you. Your not healthy, you don’t exercise, you cant have style, you cant be sexy, you cant make your dreams come true. Until you finally realize that you can own your fatness and be healthy, you like to excerise, you will rip the runway any day, you will make men turn their head just walking down the street, and you start living your dreams. I can say for me this has been a long journey and I cant even say that I have got to where I want to be because I have plenty of growth in front of me but I can say that I have come further than I ever thought I could. I have learned to love myself more and more everyday. Its my goal to continue to inspire others to love what they have and work with what you have.

So I teamed up with my two Dolls @Cassieleedonahue and @thelawofcurves on this project where we have all gotten to a place of self acceptance and are owning our curves. We want to show all woman even though we all have flaws we are proud of them, we are tired of hiding our bodies because it makes others uncomfortable. When asked about how they feel about their curves this is what they said. 

I love my curves because they have been a part of me since as long as I can remember so I’ve embraced them instead of being ashamed of them and that’s what has given me my confidence. Your only given one body, it protects you and keeps you going so why hate it , if there’s something you don’t like change it but still love yourself in the process. I wouldn’t be me if I lost my curves. And in my personal opinion curves just make clothes look even better” – Cassie Lee Donahue 

One of the biggest reasons I love my curves is that they give me confidence. From the way I fill out my clothes to the way I walk, my curves never let me down. I think that when you have curves you feel like you can conquer the world with just the right dress! To me, i think my curves are limitless. I love the skin I am in because there is no one like me. Loving yourself is key. No matter what you’re doing in life, when you love yourself it shows. I think people always notice that”- Porsha Law

For me my curves puts me apart of a community that is growing and making a difference.  I never had this sense of community growing up and it was all I wished for.  Now I have friends for life you look like me and understand my daily livings as a plus size person.  I finally have people to look up too who look like me and I couldn’t be happier to flaunt my curves

This shoot was the most liberating experience and I hope you all see that no matter how different we are there are still similarities. We are representing three different bodies with a diverse background.  I hope you Dolls love yourself even on your worst day. Spread positivity,  love others,  don’t judge, be comfortable who you are. 

All jeans are from Fashion Nova.  Use code DanaXO for 15% off. 

PHOTOS BY @chefd_rell

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Fashion Nova Babe!!!

Happy Monday Dolls,

I am so excited about this post. I have been such a huge fan of Fashion Nova for so long now and I am so excited they are now going to be offering a plus line. I have always seen their jeans on girls and love the way the jeans hug all the curves. So I was beyond excited to put these on. I also tend to stray away from jeans that have holes in the knees. The reason for this is my legs are very flabby and come out of the holes in an unflattering way. I have yet to find a pair of jeans I love with Knee Holes until now. Fashion Nova Curve is the newest spot for the trendiest plus size clothing . These jeans are your number one spot for high waisted awesomeness. I am wearing a size 2x in the Tough Luck Jeans . I did size up from my usual 16. Being a girl with the shape where my bottom is bigger than my top it is hard to find jeans that fit the waist so well. Fashion Nova Jeans material is so stretchy it is perfect for a curvy girl. I paired my jeans with a sexy crop top to complete my look.

So if you Dolls are looking for the next hot spot to grab the best high waisted jeans Fashion Nova Curve has you covered.

Bold with Brights with Fashion to Figure

Hi Dolls,

Summer always brings the sexy out in me . Your working with that good tan and for some reason everything just looks better on. Well this dress fromFashion to Figure is showing off every curve in the right way. The bold pattern and bright colors will make you the center of attraction at any party. The dress material is a very stretchy mesh. Its breathable and easy. The plunge on the front allows for some great cleavage action, and lets be real ladies who doesn’t love when the boobs look amazing.

This is the Jax Mesh Medallion Dress. I paired this dress with a simple classic black pump to allow the dress to shine. I hope you Dolls are having an amazing summer. So “Be Bold with Brights” and head over to @FTFSNAPS and enter their contests and tag #mysummerswag and show off your brightest boldest looks . Winner will be announced 8/11/16. Good Luck Dolls

Transformation Tuesday Couples Edition

Hi Dolls,

   So I am doing this transformation tuesday post because I have been so motivated lately. I always talk about how there are always bad days and good days. Its hard to make healthy choices all the time and I know this first hand. I have told you Dolls before that weight loss surgery is just a tool and it is what you do with that tool is what makes you successful. For any new followers who are reading this I am the recipient of weight loss surgery. I had the Gastric Sleeve done and I have been able to lose over 280 pounds with the help of the surgery. This also meant completely changing what I eat and my daily physical activities. It was a decision that slept on for a while until I was at the point where I was scared to live because I was told that I would die at a young age. I did my research thoroughly to make sure I made the right choice for me. 

     What I am really talking about today is the fact that I have found someone who understands my struggles and addiction with food and has a similiar story himself. I am glad to say I have found the greatest love in someone at a time where I was not looking. If what they say about soulmates is true then I am lucky to have found mine. We both grew up as the fat kid in the family. We were both ridiculed our whole lives. We were always the big kid in class. We both knew hurt at a very young age and we were both made to grow up faster then we were supposed to because we “looked” older than most our age. Its amazing when you can share stories with someone who just gets you when it comes to food and addiction. 

   It has not been an easy road for the both of us. We both used food as an escape from our reality.All we were doing was adding to our problems essentially. Here is the difference beteween us I had weightloss surgery and he did not. He did it the good old fashion way. He changed his lifestyle . He got rid of the bad stuff and started to portion control what he was eating. Mind you he is a Chef, food is around him all the time. He started working out and he lost over 90 pounds. So it is possible to lose weight with hard work and dedication. 

    Initially we did not know about each others weightloss journeys but learned quickly. We both have the same concerns about loose skin and other things that come along with weight loss. The best part of finding each other is having someone who gets you completely and understands what you are feeling. I never feel judged around him for all of my imperfections that came from the weightloss. I finally have someone who will hold me accountable for what I put in my mouth as I do for him. We are not perfect he has a pretty dang big sweet tooth but has learned to balance it out. I like to skip meals which is one of the worst things to do and he makes sure I eat and makes sure I make the right choice of what I am eating. We love salads we eat them about 3 to 4 nights out of the week. 

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Through the weightloss we have finally been able to do physical things that we never really knew we liked. Nature has become our friend and we are definetly taking advantage of it. We recently visited a place that required alot of walking and hiking and we sat and talked about how this wouldn’t have been possible a couple years ago for us. Its amazing what you can do when you put your mind to it. We both want to continue with our fitness goals and we dont plan on stopping. Dolls it doesnt have to be a significant other to motivate you, it can be a friend, neighbor, family member, or whoever just do it. I always tell people make sure you do it for yourself and not for someone else. You will only be successful if its what YOU WANT. I hope me sharing a little bit more of me has helped. 

I love you Dolls and Thank you for your continued support xoxo

Happy Birthday to Me!!!!

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Hi Dolls,

Happy Birthday to ME!!!!  So today’s blog is just about celebrating myself and what a wonderful year I have had.  I have so much to be grateful for. This last year I launched my blog and I have had so many amazing opportunities that I have been able to take part in. When you decide to follow your dream you never actually think that it can come true. I have learned so much about myself through this whole process. I have learned that I have a thicker skin than I thought. Not everyone is going to love you, and that’s okay. One thing that really drives me and keeps me focused is the love and support I get from all of my followers. You guys are really what this journey is about. I have always wanted to make a difference in people’s lives. I never imagined that I could reach people through the way I dress. I hope to continue to inspire women and men through my journey. I have learned how to be a better business woman. I take every opportunity as if it was my first. If you lead by example believe me it will pay off. I was also lucky to find a partner to share my journey with. Sometimes as a plus sized woman you don’t know your worth when it comes to relationships. I have allowed myself in the past to be put on the back burner when being in a relationship just because you sometimes feel that you should be lucky that anyone wants you at all. So you do your hardest to keep what you have going. Until you finally get to a point where you realize you deserve the world. I have been lucky to find a man who tells me how beautiful I am everyday even when I am feeling at my lowest. The biggest thing is finding someone who accepts you for you flaws and all and loves you through all imperfections. I am so blessed to have had an amazing year and I am looking forward to another successful, fun, healthy year. Thank You Dolls for being a part of my journey and always supporting my endeavors. I love you all ……. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!

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Summertime Confidence

Hi Dolls so we all know summertime is approaching us fast. The time for ” Is my body ready for this?” is going to be hanging over our heads. I am here just bringing you Dolls some inspo and telling you to love your body no matter what fears you may have about this upcoming summer season. I plan on sporting some serious Bikini fashion this summer. I am obsessed with Forever21 bathing Suits because the price is always right and they always fit me so well .

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My sizing on FOREVER21 bathing suits are XL on the tops and 1X on the bottoms. I love the fact that you can mix and match so many of their pieces. This way you have so many choices on the sets that you can put together from their separate pieces. They have been coming out with different pieces every week.  They go fast ladies so grab them while you can. These suits in my pictures are sold out but there are so many on their site so go check them out.

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I know putting on a bathing suit could sometimes be the scariest thing to do. I know that we feel completely judged and it can be an uncomfortable feeling but I say own it girl. Own your body and dont let anyone tell you how to feel about it. Plus Size women can be sexy too . I hope this shoot gives you Dolls some confidence. I continue to fight to love my imperfections but I know I won’t stop and I hope you Dolls won’t either.

A Letter to the Men in my Past, Present, and Future

An open letter to every man in my life past, present, and future

                So being a Fat Girl my whole life I can speak of this from elementary days and I think this is what makes this even more powerful. So being a fifth grader where you are almost coming into your own and you are really starting to like boys being a fat girl could be mega hard. All the boys want to fool around with the skinny girls who are just blossoming and their boobs are taking shape so the boys are uber curious. When you are a little fat girl you have boobs just from being fat so they don’t look like the other girls boobs.

While everyone is playing “tag” or really free feels your just there because you’re really just too fat to run around that fast and the boys are not even trying to touch you.  Middle school comes around and finally your body is taking shape but you’re still the fat girl. There is that one boy who is feeling you but because no one is feeling him so because you are both two lonely pre-teens trying to feel some kind of important you become “Boyfriend and Girlfriend”. You feel so important finally you are on the same level as the rest of the girls in your grade. You have a man and everyone knows it and he is even in the grade older than you. So now you really feel like you’re the SHIT.

Elementary school comes to an end and you embark on High School. So you decided you wanted to go to an ALL GIRL HIGH SCHOOL. High school starts and at first you feel so grown , your heading to school on your own , you ride the bus alone you are feeling very grown. Then as the days go on you realize the all boy schools come and wait outside the all-girl schools for the girls to come out. Day after day you pass these catholic school guys and you’re just tormented every time you pass by them. You hear EARTHQUAKE, WHALE, FATTY, and WHOOAAAAAA. Never a hey Mami let me talk to you. So every day you dread dismissal time. Finally after a year and a month of all girl schooling you make a change you go to a catholic CO-ED School. Yes finally boys that seem to be nice. School is finally enjoyable you are accepted by everyone, you actually become one of the most popular girls in the school. You have more guy friends than girls. HMMMM this could be great this could not be great. You join every after school extracurricular you can and your meeting SOOOOOO MANY BOYS. This is wonderful but you still don’t have a boyfriend. Then one day this quiet kid in your class catches your eye, a Latino Leonardo Dicaprio and OMG is he gorgeous. You guys become friends then the letter passing begins and these letters are lengthy. You guys run home to hop on AIM (America Online for you young folks) and talk for hours it’s almost like you guys are made for each other, in your head you’re practically dating. You two literally do everything together LITERALLY. Everyone knows that he and you are pretty much inseparable. Then one day you overhear a rumor that he got a Blowjob in the stair case from a girl who was never even mentioned EVER. There is where things get weird and your heart breaks because obviously she gave him such a great oral lesson they start dating.

So you try to move on but this boy was your “SOULMATE”. Like I said before you were friends with SO MANY boys that you have plenty of distractions to keep you busy. Then you start to realize all of your girlfriends are getting into relationships with boys but you have yet been asked out. All of the guys love you , your super close to so many hanging out at their houses , they pick you up to go shopping, I mean these guys are your ride or dies but your STILL SINGLE. One day your over one of your best guy friend’s house and things go a little further than you expected and you start to fool around and there is kissing and touching. You can’t believe it. You actually think like why aren’t you asking me to be your girl? It’s cool for you to put your tongue down my throat and to touch your boobs but when it comes to school time your back to just being friends. Once again it’s because you’re the fat girl. No one wants to be seen dating the FATGIRL. I could go on and on about boys kissing me behind closed doors but I think you get the picture. All High School as many boys that I had who liked me and kissed me and whatever’d with me I never was able to say this is my boyfriend.

No College comes around and here I am still the Fat Girl. I am away at college so the freedom is something that I never knew. Late night partying boys coming over to your room at whatever time they want. THIS IS AMAZING. Freshman year goes by not even one hookup. Great this is how my life will be for the rest of my life I need to just accept this now. Sophomore year roles around and OH SHIT the boys are becoming interested. I started becoming friends with the basketball players, the football players come on it can’t get any better. All these hot guys and I am actually getting tongue action from some ok my flirting game has really come into play this is awesome. You become best friends with one of the most sought out new guys in the school. I mean this guy and you are inseparable you guys snuggle together, you are literally best friends. You start messing around with a football player and things get weird between you two. You two even go into a discussion about what are you guys to each other because if your just friends then why is he mad at what you’re doing. Even though secretly you wish he would tell you he wants you to be his because he is just THAT DAMN FINE.  So you kiss a couple of more frogs and then boom you fall hard for one of them like you fall in love for the first time. You start spending a lot of time with this person. You give yourself to this person in every way imaginable and then one day you find out that he went and slept with someone close to you.

You feel like you’re going to die but you move on.

You find someone new and you start dating and things seem to be going great and then you get PREGNANT and now you become the ultimate fat girl. Now you have all this extra weight and you really feel as though no man will ever look at you again. You have the nastiest C-Section scar and you just know that your body is way more fucked up than what it was before. You realize you just have to suck it up and deal with the things that you can’t help. You meet someone you think is worthy of your time finally, and guess what they were lying the whole time about not being with someone and on top of that they have a baby on the way. WHAT A SCUM BAG. You finally start dating a man that you think well this has to be it! The relationship last past a year and then past two years and you start thinking this man is the one. Then you find out he cheated on you. You take him back like a dumbass and he does it again, and again, and again. WOW this right here shows the lack of self-confidence I had in myself. How can I at any point allow myself to be treated this way? A woman with such a brain and knowing her self-worth but ignoring the situation just so that she can feel some kind of love and attention. Well finally after a number of years I learned and that guy had to go.

Now to my future whoever you are….. I have lived a lifetime of hurt and pain. I was never accepted by a man because in their eyes MY BODY was not worthy. I go beyond my body…. My mind, my heart, my presence exceeds the outside appearance. If you’re willing to take time to get to know this Woman I can guarantee you will find out that there is something special inside. To all of the woman who finds this story hitting close to home don’t worry you are not alone and I hope that you will walk away from reading this knowing that if you are in a situation where you’re not being treated the way you deserve to, then try and get the strength to walk away. It is easier said than done but I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone and we all deserve to be happy. I love you Dolls and I hope me sharing this with you will help you Dolls along your own journey to find love.

Spring Blues

HI Dolls,

So I am so excited to announce my collaboration with some of my Fabulous  Blogger Dolls
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Natasha from The Dressing Room 8

Lisa from The Shopping Slayer

Nanthale Collins from N.E.C Style

And we are giving you Dolls a taste of the blues for Spring Time Fun Looks.

I was never a blue kind of girl … I would rather the black, white, pinks but lately I have been trying to open up my mind to different color choices.
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I Chose this look from Smart Glamour which gives a perfect spring look in a shade of blue. The print on this look is what really helps to bring the look to another level.
Bold print are so in when you do them right.

What is so great about Smart Glamour is that it is customizable fashion. Smart Glamour allows you to take your measurements and send them in order to have a garment tailored to your body .
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Do not be afraid to try new things Dolls ….stepping out your comfort zone could be super fun and exciting…..

Don’t forget check out my Blogger Dolls and their fun Blue Spring looks too

Natasha from The Dressing Room 8

Lisa from The Shopping Slayer

Nanthale Collins from N.E.C Style

Hey Girlfriend!

Hi Dolls,

So what is better than a great fitting pair of jeans ?  Seriously Dolls you guys know how I love my jeans . Well Torrid just came out with a new style of jeans called The Girlfriend Jean. These jeans have an awesome stretch that help to go over the curves. I have always talked about my love for Torrid jeans because of the fit and the quality. Sometimes as a plus size woman we have this thing called chubb rub. I have had many experiences with after a prolong period of time using certain jeans the inner thigh part is usually the first thing to rip. I have never had that problem with Torrid which is why they are one of my faves.
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I paired The Girlfriend Jean with  the Rebel Wilson for Torrid Varsity Jacket because  I wanted to pull off this total Grease feel to the whole look. First off lets talk about the Barbie Pink color of this jacket. You Dolls know I am total plus size Barbie Dolls. This jacket is perfect for Spring. It is Jersey Knit so its light weight but good enough for the crisp spring air . This jacket looks adorbs whether closed or open .

 

 
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Concrete Jungle

Hi Dolls,

So you know how I always love to push my personal style . The reason why I love fashion is because it allows me to be someone different everyday if I wanted to. Personal style is just that PERSONAL. I always tell my Dolls no matter what you need to make sure you are comfortable in what you wear, if not it will show. I also take inspiration from literally everywhere. Between Media, magazines, street style I draw inspo from all of them. So this past Sunday we had an amazing day in New York with temps in the 60’s. What better way to celebrate the warm weather other than stepping out in the most bad ass outfit in my Concrete Jungle. I am so lucky to live in a city where you can seriously express who you are and be comfortable knowing that everyone around is doing exactly the same thing you are doing.
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This look was bought as separates and once I had them all I was like “oh wait this could be really banging together. My bomber is from H&M and it is the Nylon Jacket  from the men’s section. I love using Men’s pieces to put my looks together. I have been looking for a bomber forever and just so happened to find the last one in my local H&M. I am wearing a size large.
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My skirt is from Forever21 unfortunately its sold out in this color know but  The pencil skirt is still available in other colors.
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My bodysuit is also from Forever21. Last one at the store and it was a size large.
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Remember Dolls live by your rules of fashion . Dont let anyone dictate what you can wear. Love you Dolls